Me, Myself and Lavanya

Today, the 26th of January is celebrated as the Republic Day in India. However, it was nothing special for me. It was the same as any other day. Yesterday, night I slept very late. Was reading some artciles about spyware and security online. Spyware has become great headache these days. Its too difficult to be protected from all kinds of spyware and browse the Internet freely. After waking up at 12:45pm in the afternoon, I saw a few missed calls from her. Nowadays, I am mostly keeping my cell in silent mode while going to sleep, coz if I get disturbed in between I won’t get proper sleep or may be it would not be pssible for me to get sleep soon. After getting this broadband Internet connection in my room, somehow I am able to keep myself busy for sometime. I am sleeping only if im unable to do any other work, like searching for nice articles in Google. I like participating in Discussion boards/forums also. This has been a hobby since the last 4 years or more. I like helping people and to be helped when im in need. Few people call this expectation! Is it bad to expect help from a group of people whom I’ve helped in whatever ways possible for me? I don’t think so. The same holds true for love. If you love a person truly and madly, never expect that he/she will love you the same way. If expectations are not there, there’s nothing left in the world. Like in job interviews, the HRs ask, where do you see yourself 2,3 or 4 years from now? This question is answered based on mere expectations. No one knows or has seen the future (excluding a few supernatural beings!)

Each person who loves another person, always has some expectations on him/her. Without this its just not possible to be in love or think of love. Love is really a nice feeling. But, you should never over-do it. Keep love where it is supposed to be. Don’t ever keep it on your head and force your heart to make decisions. This can be very regretful in the future. As the saying goes, If you love someone, set them free. Its quite true in certain aspects and I knew this long before I fell in love.

But, never set your beloved free to such an extent that she/he starts taking you for granted! People are there, in this worls who just want to taste a bit of everything when they can and when its really easy to do so. Its really difficult to identify such people in this huge world. Take your own time and study a person’s mind and heart very clearly before coming into a relationship. Whoever you are, and if you are reading my blog and you liked the way I write, there are many chances you would be an Indian. The thoughts expressed in here are purely Indian. The ideology of true love is the same all over the world. However, in western countries, the value and quality of true love has degraded to its limits. People seek a partner just for having fun, sex etc. Most relationships are valid only for a few days, months or years. Anyways, I am not here to advocate on this topic. The sole purpose of this blog is to share with the world, my happiness, sorrows and everything else that has and is going to happen in my life. May be at some place in this blog you can find a little sentence or a word that would help you make your life a little better or avoid getting into such troubles as I have gone through.

Always, remember this : “Never love a person more than he/she deserves. Never keep too much expectations (I know its difficult!). Don’t let anyone take you for a ride. In other words, don’t let them take you for granted. Don’t let them sit on your head.” Whether you are a girl or a guy, the above statements hold good for both.

If you are a guy :

* Don’t run behind her. Wait for her to come to you. If she doesn’t come, leave her alone. Coz, she doesn’t love you. She is just spending good time with you. She wants you to feel that she loves you, so that may be some day, you will start believing her and make her sit on your head! Beware and be careful about this.

* Don’t force her to do anything. If she has the courage to go against her parents to love you and marry you, she’s the ONE for you. Being happy with a person in good times is very easy. Loving and caring for someone when you are not able to help yourself is quite difficult. Don’t let your heart rule over your mind. Don’t just keep thinking that,if she loved you so much she can do anything for you. These are all fake talks in today’s world. Not every girl or guy thinks the same way, neither does each person love the same way. The ideas and thoughts expressed here and completely mine and does not have to relate necessarily with the way anyone else thinks.

The concept of true love has totally vanished now. People have become selfish and will be with you mostly for material pleasure. It’s very difficult to understand such people. Keep your wallet aside when you are into love. Never let money get into a relationship like love. Money makes life and spoils life also in many cases. Its not worth it. Its needed to survive. I know, but you need to keep it for things which can’t be done without money. You need food to eat, a place to live, places to go… these need money. Use it wisely. Love needs the heart and soul of two persons to be one. Next,comes money. Once you are sure that you are going to stay together for the rest of your life, starting thinking about each other’s future.

It’s enough for today. I am not feeling well. Will continue some other time. I know it wasn’t such a nice read, but anyways… take care.

Ashish